Sunday, 11 December 2011

The FEAR of the Parent..Ville!!


                                   THE FEAR OF THE PARENT...VILLE
Syrah is getting ready for college...suddenly she gets a message on her cell phone..
-“hyeee syrah...was sup... tmrw we all are catching up at CCD at 4...don’t say no..its finally a SUNDAY!!!”
Syrah without giving this offer a second thought...replied..
-“I wish I could...but my dad will be home tomorrow...sorry...u guys enjoy...!”
What exactly does this mean?? May be Syrah wants to spend her Sunday with her family..Or maybe the scenario is much palpable...she is afraid of hearing a “No” from her parents...
Why didn’t she try asking once??  May be she knew that convincing her parents was a vain effort...it would have rather ended up in an inutile family drama...
Often we see parents expressing their resentment regarding their children; however we fail to notice those children who are still struggling to get  out of that “Dayra’’..
Is it incorrect for a girl to just hang around with her friends?? Why can’t they chat for more than 10 minutes on his cell phone?? The worst is that they are not even allowed to be on social sites...
Then isn’t it a no brainer that these girls and boys  will certainly use other options to enjoy their share of freedom..
Why are such things happening today...when it’s a liberal place to live in..
I have heard my grand mom saying that-Milk boils faster when you put  a lid on it..And if you lose your attention even  for a second it will surely spill...
Parents must understand that their child needs space. You have an opportunity to make it harder for your own children to someday complain that you are nagging them a lot. Strict parents steal their confidence, they don't let their child to develop properly and find their inner self. They make it difficult for them to be an adult who knows what he or she wants they are so scared to have an opinion of their own.
I know a boy who is addicted to smoking; when I asked him how he developed this habit, he simply blamed his dad. He said that his dad used to pitilessly beat him even if he was found playing with his friends. He was not allowed to watch or play cricket as his dad thought he will miss on his studies. Because of such pressures he gradually started hating school, his studies and got attracted to a lot of bad habits. He says if his dad would not have been that strict in his childhood; he would have been at least a step ahead then what he is today.
Prevention is always better than cure. Before you see something like this happening to your child start working on it in a correct manner. There is no smoke without fire and understand this before it’s too late.
                                                  -DHANASHRI KADAM
        (Title inspired by the book “The hound of Baskerville” written by  Sir Arthur Conan Doyle )

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